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The Best Bible Verses About the Power of a Woman

Posted on by Donna Snow

In God’s perfect wisdom, He knew that men needed women. That we needed each other. God created mankind for community, so it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). But what exactly is the power of a woman?

Today’s culture argues that women need to be obnoxious and overbearing to be strong. Scripture teaches precisely the opposite. Compassion, wisdom, and gentleness are highly valued throughout the Bible. So let’s dive in.

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The power of a woman comes from God. A godly woman faithfully seeks God in everything that she does (1 Chronicles 16:11). She is compassionate, kind, and brave – a woman after God’s own heart (1 Samuel 13:14). Here is how we can become such a woman. 

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What Makes a Woman Strong According to the Bible?

There are many young women and older women in the Bible that I view as powerful and strong. The stories of women show me in real time what being strong actually looks like. 

I did not grow up in the church so I learned about being a strong woman of faith by being around godly women. I hung around them in my congregation and got to know them. Their actions revealed their love for Jesus and me.

I also studied very carefully the women in Scripture. And what they demonstrate is profound.

Showing God’s Love

The first thing that makes a godly woman strong is living out and showing God’s love to others. A strong woman’s love enables others to be confident and strong in the Lord.

In the Orthodox Church, the third week after Easter is called the Week of the Myrrh-bearing Women. At a time when every disciple of Christ deserted Him, the Myrrh-bearing Women stood at the Cross to see His crucifixion and to lay His body down in the grave. Their devotion and love of Jesus Christ shone brightly at that difficult time.

We see women following and serving Jesus in the Gospels with great care and love. They also served others with love in His name. 

Love is truly a hallmark of a strong godly woman.

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Good Works and Good Deeds

Another characteristic is that a woman’s good works and good deeds show great strength of faith. Being diligent with our hands and time makes us role models for young girls. 

Can you remember a particular woman who was your role model? I bet that she did not just sit around the house.

The first example that God provided to me was my mom. Mom never got to watch a movie at home all the way through when my sisters and I would finally lasso her into sitting down. 

The clothes soon needed to be changed from the washer to the dryer. Or a cake needed to be taken out of the oven. Or Dad would need her opinion on something. She was like a jack-in-the-box.

My mom loved taking care of her girls, her husband, and her home. Women’s roles may have evolved, but truly important women keep the home fires burning.

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Being Gracious

Being a gracious woman is also a hallmark of the strong and great women of the Bible. 

A gracious woman is pleasantly kind. You show regard and respect for others in manners, speech, and behavior. Do you know a woman who meets that definition?

Whether a housewife or holding leadership positions, a woman strong in the Lord is gracious even to those who may be unkind. Much like Jesus was.

God gives you the strength to be gracious through the power of the Holy Spirit. Relying on the power of Christ given to all of God’s people makes all the difference. 

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What is the Biblical Purpose of a Woman?

The primary biblical purpose of a woman is no different than a man:

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39).

In addition, the Lord God blessed women with the unique ability to bear children. Although I never had children, each of my three sisters did. They all agree that motherhood is the biggest blessing and sometimes the hardest challenge of their entire lives.

However, there is much more to the power and strength of a godly woman besides motherhood.  

The Proverbs 31 Woman

When I first became a Christian in my early twenties I read Proverbs 31 with a sinking heart. I did not emulate any of those godly qualities. So I have tackled them one by one throughout my life.

1. An Excellent Wife

“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:11-12).

I was married for thirteen years. As a corporate America career woman, I cannot say that I was always an excellent wife.

However, I was faithful and loved taking care of my husband, our home, and our kitty cat. I began serving in the music ministry at church because he had an excellent singing voice. We loved singing and serving together.

Being an excellent wife is far more than simply being present or good in bed. It means investing time and effort in making your house a loving home, whether or not you have children. 

Making your home a sanctuary of love and compassion is a special gift to you and your family. Creating a calm, peaceful, and safe space is a very godly and good thing.

2. Willing Hands

“She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. And she makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant” (Proverbs 31:13-14, 24).

A powerful woman has willing hands. You are always looking out for ways to bless your home, family, and community. 

Working diligently with your own hands and mind is a holy thing. God has given you the ability to think and produce good fruit from your hands. You and those around you benefit greatly.

Willing hands can look like dusting your home’s blinds to keep dust allergens at bay. Making oatmeal protein cookies for the homeless. Or learning a profitable skill to increase your household income.

It is a blessing to nurture willing and diligent hands. They are a loud voice of action to show God’s greater love of care and compassion to the world.

3. Not Lazy

“She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens” (Proverbs 31:15). 

I am not a morning person. Waking up while it is “yet night” sounds terrible. There, I said it. 

However, this verse means that you will not find a strong woman of the Lord still lazing in bed at Noon (unless she is ill). I love rising in the morning to feed my kitty cats and head out into the garden.

Gardening is hard work, but the rewards are immeasurable. I want to ensure that I have good, healthy fruits and vegetables for my table and to share with family and neighbors. Gardening also provides exercise.

When I look at the ingredients list of some store products, it makes me want to get up even earlier to ensure that I know what goes into the food that I put into my mouth. Like successful gardeners, godly women cannot be lazy.

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4. Resourceful

“She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. And she perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night” (Proverbs 31:16-18).

In biblical times as in today, a strong woman knows the value of having profitable resources. 

That could be translated as committing money into a 401(k), investing in real estate, planting a garden, or forming a profitable homestead. The meaning here is that the ups and downs of the world markets will not break a strong woman of God.

When you are wise with the resources that the Lord gives you, you will always have enough for your home and to share with those in need. 

5. Generous

“She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy” (Proverbs 31:19-20).

A strong woman is also generous with her time and resources. A beautiful grace of life is being able to help those whom God puts in your path. 

Understanding how much Christ Jesus has done for you opens your heart and hands to be a blessing to those in need. It can be as simple as sharing your garden abundance or volunteering an afternoon at a women’s shelter.

Being generous does not have to be complicated. When God gives you an abundance spend time in prayer to see who He wants you to bless with that overflow.

6. Homemaker

“She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple” (Proverbs 31:21-22).

In my twenties, I would cringe at the mention of women being good homemakers. Liberation meant women were freed from the kitchen, right?

I did not understand the concept from God’s perspective. Taking care of your home means that your family is not lacking for any basic need even if the world crumbles around you. You are setting up your family for success.

For example, I have started making my own bread over the past year. Becoming aware of the outrageously unhealthy ingredients that are included in some store-bought items was the catalyst. Have you read the ingredients list on your favorite store-bought food lately? 

Being a godly homemaker means ensuring that your home environment nurtures your spiritual, mental, and physical well-being. Changing the world begins at home.

7. Role Model

“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is in vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:25-27, 30).

Our culture shouts that women who claw up the corporate ladder or become social media stars are perfect role models. That is not what God’s Word says.

Women with strength, dignity, wisdom, kindness, diligence, and unwavering love for the Lord are true influencers. 

Mothers who raise children to “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matthew 7:12) can change society for the better at a grassroots level. 

A godly woman can be a catalyst for great things simply by nurturing and loving her own family.

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Strong Women in the Bible

There is no shortage of strong women in the Bible from whom we can learn much. Here are some of my favorite godly women.

Mary Magdalene

“And also some women who had been healed of evil spirits and infirmities: Mary, called Magdalene, from whom seven demons had gone out” (Luke 8:2).

The first time that Mary Magdalene shows up on the pages of Scripture, she has already been healed by Jesus. She is the most misunderstood and historically distorted follower of Jesus found in the New Testament.

Not once is she linked whatsoever in Scripture to any sexual immorality. She is only mentioned twelve times in the Bible. Eleven of those twelve times she is witnessing about Jesus’ crucifixion and resurrection.

What Scripture does tell us about Mary Magdalene is that her past included demonic possession. She was in a desperate, hopeless, and helpless situation. Then Jesus showed up and healed her. She devoted the rest of her life to serving Jesus. Mary Magdalene is usually listed first in the list of Jesus’ female disciples.

This extraordinarily strong woman never forgot where she came from. She never forgot Who rescued her from it. And she spent the rest of her life serving Him wholeheartedly. 

I have written a Bible study called “Unshakable” that includes the incredible story of Mary Magdalene.

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Mary, the Mother of Jesus

The Virgin Mary offers a beautiful example of a strong woman in the New Testament. Mary of Nazareth was the mother of Jesus (Luke 1). She went from rural obscurity to highly favored.

When the angel Gabriel announced to Mary that she would be Jesus’  mother, she asked, “How can this be?” She struggled and had doubts, much like you and I. Mother Mary without a husband? Yet she trusted God wholeheartedly.

After such a miraculous start, no mother should have to watch her son crucified like a common criminal. Yet God gave her incorruptible strength.

Mary’s calling was not an easy one. God knew that. There must have been times when she did not feel highly favored or very strong. God knew that, too. God has chosen and prepared you for a specific calling, as well. He will give you HIS strength to survive and thrive.

I have written a Bible study called “Unshakable” that includes the incredible story of Mary, the mother of Jesus.

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Queen Esther

Esther was a Jewish orphan with a lot of character but not a lot of opportunities. However, when King Ahasuerus got rid of his queen for disobedience, God set the stage for Esther to play a vital role in saving the people of Israel from annihilation. 

Three things made Esther a strong woman of God. First, she knew God and trusted Him. Being raised in a Jewish household meant that she knew God and His Word. A strong woman follows the Lord. Her story is found in the Old Testament Book of Esther.

Second, she listened to wise counsel from trusted advisors. Her older cousin Mordecai faithfully raised her and looked out for her once she had been swept into the King’s palace. Esther only speaks eight times in the entire book of Esther. A strong woman listens more than she talks.

Finally, she bravely stepped up past fear to prevent the genocide of the children of Israel. Queen Esther approached the king uninvited, which literally could have cost her life. He listened to her and ended up passing a decree that would save her and her people from death. 

A strong woman is brave. I have written an entire, in-depth Bible study on the life of Esther called “Chosen.”

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Abigail, Wife of Nabal

Abigail, the wife of Nabal of Carmel, is the only woman in the Hebrew Bible who is described as both intelligent and beautiful. We find her story in 1 Samuel 25.

David requested food for himself and his band of six hundred men who were fleeing from the mad King Saul. They had been offering protection against marauders for the shepherds and flocks in the area. Nabal refused David and his men and called them riffraff. David armed himself intent on killing Nabal for the grievous insult.

This is where we meet Abigail for the first time. One of Abigail’s servants runs to her and begs her to intervene. Abigail quickly assembles an elaborate feast, loads it on donkeys, and intercepts a vengeful David and his men. She saves her foolish husband’s life with her generosity and apologizes to David.

Ten days later, God turns Nabal’s heart to stone and he dies. After her husband’s death, David hears that Abigail has been widowed and sends for her to become his wife.

Abigail’s kindness, quick mind, and generosity not only saved her life but also brought her great blessings. 

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Deborah

Deborah is the only female judge listed in Scripture. She is a charismatic military leader and instrumental in the story of how Israel takes the land of Canaan. Her story is found in Judges 4 and 5.

Along with being the only female judge, Deborah is also the only judge to be called a prophet. Deborah summons Barak to lead the battle against the Canaanites. Deborah, Barak, and his warriors destroy all the Canaanites (except Sisera).

In an era where women were relegated to the back burner, Deborah stands as a prominent leader in a male-dominated culture. However, we do not see her letting it go to her head. She remains a faithful, level-headed judge and servant of God.

Deborah’s story is truly inspiring. A strong, godly woman knows that true power is knowing when to use it.

Ruth

Ruth is a Moabite woman who married a Judean immigrant named Mahlon. Upon his death, she became a childless widow who decided to accompany her mother-in-law, Naomi, to Judah. We find Ruth’s story in the book of Ruth.

This strong young woman commits herself to an older woman in a world where life depends upon men. Ruth takes the initiative to find food and comes to the field of a prosperous man named Boaz, a relative of Naomi. Boaz allows Ruth to glean in his field and arranges for her safety. 

When Ruth reports back to Naomi, she learns that Boaz is an important figure and redeemer within their larger family. After clearing any prior marriage claims, Boaz takes Ruth as his wife and she bears a son.

Ruth went to a strange land with her mother-in-law to make a new life. She cared for and provided for them as best she could. She ended up not only securing her own future, but that of generations to come. Talk about a strong woman!

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Naomi, Ruth’s Mother-in-Law

Throughout Naomi’s story, she has a complicated relationship with God. Sometimes she blames God for her issues or concludes that God has forsaken her. Her story is found in the book of Ruth.

Naomi’s story begins as a wife and mother. But over time and through terrible tragedies, Naomi goes from wife to widow and mother to no-mother. She is stripped of all identity according to the culture of the day. She has a choice between death or carving out a new life. 

Upon hearing that the Lord has restored food to Judah, Naomi begins the journey home. She tells each of her widowed daughters-in-law to return to their homes, but Ruth will not leave her side. They journey to Judah together. 

When the women arrive in town, Naomi instructs the people not to call her “Naomi” (meaning “pleasant”) but instead “Mara” (meaning “bitter”). She is struggling to adjust. Can you relate? However, she successfully counsels Ruth to pursue Boaz to ensure their survival.

Naomi could have given up and disappeared into obscurity. Yet she was strong in the Lord and turned her face toward hope with her daughter-in-law. A strong woman never gives up.

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Pharaoh’s Daughter

She was one of the most powerful women of her day yet we do not know her name. She was the only daughter of the Egyptian pharaoh Thutmose I. Yet she is best known for her role as Moses’ adoptive mother.

Thutmose I realized that the Jewish nation’s sheer strength in numbers could threaten his dynasty. His sacred counselors also foretold of a Hebrew man who would lift his nation above the Egyptians.

The pharaoh’s scribes warned him that, “There would be a child born to the Israelites, who, if he were reared, would bring the Egyptian dominion low, and would raise the Israelites; that he would excel all men in virtue, and obtain a glory that would be remembered through all ages”  (Josephus, Antiquities of the Jews 9:2). 

So pharaoh decrees that all young boys be put to death. Moses’ parents placed him in a basket and set him afloat in the Nile River to save his life. Pharaoh’s daughter discovers the floating basket. She pulls Moses out of the river and raises him as her son despite her father’s murderous edict. 

Strong women take a stand, not a selfie. Talk about bravery!

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The Jewish Midwives

Going hand-in-hand with the pharaoh’s daughter saving Moses, the Jewish midwives also played an important role during that time. Their story can be found in Exodus 1:15-22.

Pharaoh ordered: “When you serve as midwife to the Hebrew women and see them on the birthstool, if it is a son, you shall kill him, but if it is a daughter, she shall live” (Exodus 1:15-16). 

However, the midwives honored God and chose to save the children from the pharaoh’s orders. They placed their lives on the line to save innocent children made in the image of God. 

God blessed them for their bravery: “And because the midwives feared God, he gave them families” (Exodus 1:21).

Honoring God and cherishing life are significant traits of strong godly women.

Martha

Martha’s story is one that I can relate to easily. She was a strong Type A woman who liked to get things done. We see the most detail about Martha from Luke 10:38-42. 

Martha and her sister Mary opened their home to Jesus as he traveled with his disciples. As Martha works hard at cooking and cleaning for their guests, Mary simply sits at the feet of Jesus and listens. 

In Martha’s opinion, Mary was being completely unhelpful. So she tells to Jesus. “But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, ‘Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me‘” (Luke 10:40). Yet, Jesus took Mary’s side saying that Mary had chosen better. 

I invited my whole family over recently for my sister’s birthday. I had no problem asking them to help with preparations so that we could all sit down together when they were done. The power of a godly woman depends on Jesus and His perfect timing. 

There is a time for rushing and preparing. Then there is a time to simply sit at Jesus’ feet and listen. 

Mary, the Sister of Martha

We learned a bit about Mary of Bethany from her sister Martha’s story above. They lived in Bethany just on the other side of the Mount of Olives from Jerusalem. 

When Jesus and His disciples arrived, Mary’s focus is clear: “And Martha had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching” (Luke 10:39). While Martha rushed around to serve Jesus, Mary rested at Jesus’ feet. 

So how can you be a strong woman of God just by sitting and listening? Mary was listening to the wisdom of Christ. You and I do that every time we open the Bible.

Mary chose to soak in those precious moments with Jesus. And Jesus praises her for it: “Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her” (Luke 10:42). Mary was not being lazy. She chose to spend time with Jesus. 

Despite the pressure of our culture today, spending time with Jesus is always a beautiful, strong choice for all Christian women.

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What are Powerful Verses For Women?

The Word of God has much to say about women. It offers powerful verses that we can take to heart to be a wise woman of God.

Specifically for women:

  • “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30).
  • “A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth” (Proverbs 11:16).
  • “Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. ​You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God” (1 Peter 3:3-4).
  • “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands” (Proverbs 14:1).

Powerful Verses in General:

  • “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. ​And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).
  • “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened” (Matthew 7:7-8).

Powerful Verses for Strength:

  • “Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. And do everything with love” (1 Corinthians 16:13-14).
  • “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).
  • “The Lord is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped; my heart exults, and with my song I give thanks to him” (Psalm 28:7).

God honors women who put Him first. He gives us the strength and love that we need to follow Him each day.

I pray that you are seeking to become one of those strong women in the Lord, sister!

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50 Best Happy Birthday Wishes For Pastor’s Wife

Posted on by Donna Snow

Whether you know your pastor’s wife very well or just met her, wishing her “Happy Birthday” on her special day will bring a beautiful smile to her face.  

Her birthday is a special time to lift her up and shower the love of God on her for the coming year.

Here are 50 well wishes to provide inspiration for you to bless her with on her birthday!

Thankfulness for Pastor’s Wife

#1 You are such a beautiful example of a life well served in Christ. May God give you continued good health to keep shining His light. Happy birthday to an exceptional lady!

#2 You may not have anticipated this calling to be a pastor’s wife, but God has equipped you for this noble work. As you embrace this new year in your life, I pray that God’s love meets you at every turn. Happy birthday!

#3 You are loved! May the light of the Lord fill your heart as you celebrate this day that He unveiled you to the world. Your guidance lights the way for so many on their journeys of faith. My God bless you and keep you always all the days of your life. Happy birthday!

#4 I want you to know that I understand that your calling as a pastor’s wife is hard and can get lonely. But you are standing on the Rock of Ages! I pray that the good Lord grants you the desires of your heart and much more. Have a blessed Birthday!

#5 May the light of God’s life continue to be the best gift that you receive this year. I celebrate you and praise God for your long life. May the Lord bless you on this day, and always. Happy birthday!

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#6 My birthday prayer for you is that God will faithfully provide helpers to you who love you unconditionally, find joy praying for you, and commit to walking alongside you. Happy Birthday today!

#7 Wishing you God’s grace and His exceptional birthday blessings to you today. I pray your heart is filled and overflowing with the joy of the Lord, and the power of the Holy Spirit. Happy Birthday!

#8 You have one of the most difficult callings that exist: a pastors wife. You are a spiritual teacher for so many who are at different stages in their spiritual journeys. I admire your energy, your strength, and your commitment to this church and us. I thank the Lord Jesus for your selfless devotion to us. Happy birthday!

#9 Thank you, dear friend, for the joy you bring to so many. May you experience the radiant presence of God in you and through you, as you serve Him so faithfully. Happy birthday!

#10 I often neglect to tell you, but please know this: You are loved. You are beautiful. You are valuable. I pray only good things for you on your big day. Happy Birthday!

Best Wishes for Her Birthday

#11 Thank you for being a woman who loves the Word of God! May your birthday be filled with happy moments, love, and joy. God bless you and may He strengthen and protect you daily. Happy Birthday!

#12 Dearest Christian friend, you have helped me so much in my Christian walk by encouraging me along the way and keeping me moving forward. I pray that your birthday this year is a peaceful and memorable special occasion. I thank Jesus that you are in my life. Happy Birthday!

#13 Happy birthday to an extraordinary pastor. You are a gift from God to His people and your faithful service will be rewarded as you serve with love and grace. Happy Birthday!

#14 Happy birthday, Pastor! With your infinite compassion, wise advice, and the Godly example you always set, you go above and beyond, and I am so thankful. Happy Birthday!

#15 I just wanted to tell you that I am praying for your body, your soul, your ministry, and your family, especially on your birthday. I support you and the selfless work you do in our church and in our community. I hope you have a Happy Birthday!

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Blessings for Pastor’s Wife

#16 May your birthday be a refreshing fountain of joy to your soul. May the Lord pour out the riches of His grace in your heart and fill your cup to be overflowing. Happy birthday!

#17 Thank you for being ever-present for your congregation when we need a helping hand or a word of wisdom. It means so much that you are there for us, and are praying for us. Happy birthday!

#18 It’s a pleasure to be in a congregation with a pastor who has as much integrity and biblical knowledge as you do. I pray that you have a birthday filled with all the blessings and joy you could ever imagine. Happy Birthday!

#19 Happy birthday, to a pastor who is caring, wise, and a shining example of Godly compassion. My family is so thankful for all that you do. Happy Birthday!

#20 I pray that you have a birthday filled with blessings, joy and heavenly love, Pastor. Thank you for dedicating your life to growing and strengthening Jesus’ flock. Happy Birthday!

Gratefulness to Pastor’s Wife

#21 May your birthday be filled with all the blessings, love and compassion that you spread each and every day to all of us. Happy birthday!

#22 You’re more than a pastor. You’re a mentor, friend, and source of great comfort and wisdom in times of worry. Happy birthday!

#23 May your birthday be filled with all the joy and warmth you give to those around you each day. We’re truly blessed to have you as our pastor. Happy Birthday!

#24 Wishing a sweet and wonderful birthday to a pastor who is caring and kind. Thank you so much for filling our hearts with joy. Happy Birthday!

#25 Wishing a day filled with happiness, joy, and love to the first lady of our Church! Your good works and good heart are beautiful reflections of Jesus. Happy birthday!

Giving Thanks for Pastor’s Wife

#26 On your special day, I want to thank you for all the guidance and wisdom you’ve given to me throughout the years. I pray that God’s peace is present every day of your life. Happy birthday!

#27 Your wisdom, compassion, and strength are a much-needed example for us all. You’re so caring, selfless, and kind. I pray every blessing of God on you as your birthday gift. Wishing you a very Happy Birthday!

#28 I am so very blessed to call you a friend! You always have the right words and Bible verses to share at just the right times. I am thanking God for you and am praying for you on your birthday. I look forward to seeing you in church! Happy Birthday!

#29 You are a woman of the Word, deliberate and purposeful, kind, compassionate and thoughtful, a burden sharer and bearer, and the Lord’s battle axe. I commend you to God, and to the word of His grace, which is able to build you up. Happy Birthday!

#30 May goodness and mercy accompany you today and all the days of your beautiful life. I pray that God blesses you with many meaningful chapters over this next year of life. Happy Birthday!

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Special Birthday Blessings

#31 Happy birthday to a woman with listening ears and a cheerful spirit. May your days be long and your years be crowned with glory. Happy birthday!

#32 I want to thank you for your kindness and the love that you always share. Your friendship has enriched my life and I appreciate your support. I hope your day is full of happiness and special memories. Happy Birthday!

#33 My special birthday wish is that the grace of the Lord covers you like beautiful robes of His love and strength. Happy birthday!

#34 I want to thank you for all the years of love, support, and friendship. There is no one I’d rather have by my side in the good times or bad. My life is a little brighter because you are in it. Have a blessed and Happy Birthday!

#35 You’re an inspiration to everyone that you encounter. As you celebrate another year today, may your life continue to inspire people to Christ. Happy birthday!

Personal Thanks to Pastor’s Wife

#36 Thank you for making the church home for me. Being so far away from my family, I’m thankful to Jesus Christ that I found a place where I truly feel like I belong. Happy birthday!

#37 I’m so grateful that God brought you into my life. Each year I have the opportunity to celebrate another year with my best friend. You are the most beautiful person on the inside and out, and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for you in the years to come. Lovely Birthday wishes for a lovely lady!

#38 May you continue to enjoy victory on all sides of life because of Christ Jesus. Your tireless efforts in our church community have truly made this place home for many, including me. Happy birthday!

#39 To an amazing woman of God, you are the epitome of humility and beauty both inside and out. I wish you many more blessings and best wishes over this next year. Happy birthday!

#40 I can’t believe how lucky I am that God put you in my life. You are so special, so loving, and warm-hearted. God’s Word just flows out of you like living water to a parched soul. I can’t think of anyone who deserves to be as happy on their birthday as you do. Happy Birthday!

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#41 Today I get to celebrate you! I cherish the wonderful times and joys we have shared over the years. You are a blessing to me and all of our church members. Happy birthday!

#42 I know that God is already turning hard situations around for good and making ways where there seem to be none. I pray that God’s blessings flow like a faucet over your life today. You deserve it! Happy birthday!

#43 You may not know it, but your kindness and Christ-like actions have spurred me to chase after the Lord. Thank you for your exemplary leadership and transparent joy. You are a blessing! Happy birthday!

#44 May God enrich your life like never before. On this special day, I pray that you experience unending blessings and much joy as you celebrate another year of the Lord’s favor. Happy birthday!

#45  The very first time we met the Lord’s love just poured out of you. Your kind words, selfless service, and joy-filled praises have been a special blessing in my life and to everyone who walks into our church. I pray God’s abundant love overflows into your life today. Happy Birthday!

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#46 How has another year already gone by? I pray that many wonderful things come your way today because you Christ is the constant source in your life. Happy Birthday!

#47 The best thing about today is the fact that I get to tell you what a wonderful person you are! You inspire me to greater heights because Jesus shines so brightly from you. I pray God’s abundant blessings over your special day. Happy Birthday!

#48 I am so thankful that God brought us together as friends! Your relentless pursuit of excellence in the Lord is such a beautiful example to me and everyone you meet. The love of Christ flows out of you and I pray today that it overflows in your life. Happy Birthday!

#49 This year has been a tough one for you, yet no one would know it. You faithfully show kindness and love even when it is not reciprocated. I pray that this next year of life is full of joy and lots of love. You deserve every bit of it. Jesus has your back and so do I. Happy Birthday!

#50 It is such a joy to call you my dear friend and sister in Christ! You shine the light of Christ so beautifully. Your kind welcome to everyone who walks into our church makes all the difference. I pray every blessing on you today and every day. Happy Birthday!

The Truth About Being a Pastor’s Wife

These dedicated women gracefully stand silently in the shadows while people clamor for their husband’s attention while we may not even acknowledge their presence.

Pastors’ wives live in glass houses where we notice every fingerprint, yet they faithfully keep those windows clean by extending forgiveness that we often don’t deserve.

When we unjustly criticize their husband or how he runs the church — even when it’s so nasty that there should be a smackdown right there in the narthex — they smile graciously and assure us gently that they will pass along our concerns.

They often volunteer for tasks in the church that no one else wants to tackle — often areas they are not gifted for — yet they trudge faithfully ahead while we slander their efforts.

These amazing women long to help the multitudes alongside their husbands and willingly lay down their very life for the beautiful body of Christ. And some days that makes her very, very tired.

God’s Promises to a Pastor’s Wife

Her calling is hard and it can get lonely, but she is standing on the Rock.

God will faithfully provide helpers to her who love you unconditionally, find joy praying for her, and commit to walking alongside her — whether inside or outside her church.

And since you want to wish her a Happy Birthday, perhaps you are one of those wonderful encouragers that will bless her with your birthday card. God bless you!

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Donna is a sought-after author, speaker, and Bible teacher. Her path from being unchurched to becoming passionate about sharing Jesus was not easy. Read her God-breathed journey: “From Unchurched to Becoming a Multi-Published Author and Sought-After Speaker.” If you want to send Donna a quick message, then visit her here.

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15 Best Inspiring Books for Christian Moms (Gift Ideas)

Posted on by Donna Snow

Mother’s Day is fast approaching. We do a lot to remember moms on that day, but what about the other 364 days of the year? Here are some of the most inspiring books for Christian moms.

Let’s face facts. Moms have a LOT going on. Some days your to-do list far exceeds your bandwidth and hours in the day. Who you look to for strength matters.

There are inspirational Bible verses that remind moms of the love of God. There are inspirational stories that point us to the Good News of eternal life. 

But what about those moms who still have kids at home and are struggling just to survive the day? When she turns off her nightstand light, her mind still races producing a sleepless night.

You need more than inspirational quotes, Christian stories, or social media comparisons. You need the steadfast love of the Lord and the grace of Christ Jesus to settle deep in your soul.

Moms Matter – a LOT

You can easily feel like you are simply a grocery store fetcher. Also a mess-up cleaner and carpool guru wondering where your personal life went. 

The beautiful sacrifice that you make is more than a momentary affliction. The powerful message of God’s love is working in you to become His role model to the next generation.

Perhaps it has been a long time since you even had time to read a book besides the Bible. Perhaps you are a Sunday school teacher who reads the Word of God to teach from instead of soaking in.

If you still have children at home you are still in the trenches. You can certainly use the encouragement of God’s grace! You may have a little boy or a little girl or several of each. And you need encouragement that you are doing the good work God has called you to do. 

Moms are Cultural Influencers

You have a vital influential role in our culture as you nurture and raise the next generation of leaders. Godly leaders matter for our country and in the Church.

Here are 15 inspiring and encouraging books for Christian moms, in no particular order. I am not a mom, but my three sisters and the vast majority of my friends have children of all ages. 

As a Christian writer, I am connected with many gifted writers who have children. They have mentioned these book titles to me over the years. They found them to be especially uplifting, encouraging or provided a new perspective in their crucial role as a mom.

Any one of these books would be the perfect gift for a special mom in your life (or even yourself). Moms need biblical truths and encouragement from the God of hope on Mother’s Day. Here goes!

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Pressing Pause

You’re juggling a career, kids’ schedules, and church commitments. You’re covered in spit-up and anxious about what the next eighteen years might hold. You barely have time to carve out a few quiet moments to rejuvenate your spirit.

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Pressing Pause: 100 Quiet Moments for Moms to Meet With Jesus focuses on moms who approach their lives today with a positive mindset. They long to develop a closer relationship with God.

SNIPPET: Kids bickering? Schedule jam-packed? Dishes and laundry both piled up high? Perhaps it’s time you pressed pause and took a moment for yourself.

This book offers you a calm way to start your day, refresh yourself in Jesus, and drink deeply of His presence so that you are ready to pour out love, time, and energy into the people who matter most to you.

Desperate

This book is for moms who love their children to the depths of their souls. But perhaps you have also curled up under your covers, fighting back tears, and begging God for help.

You are struggling through a difficult time or difficult situation. However, the love of Christ woven in your work of the Lord still wins.

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Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe offers the story of one young mother’s honest account of the desperate feelings experienced in motherhood forged in the trenches of raising her four children.

Beyond great stories, she focuses on the greater love of God shining through your Christian faith.

SNIPPET: Whether you are a first-time mom or an experienced mom, this book will inspire you to be a part of the no-more-desperate-moms movement.

There are Bible study and journal exercises in each chapter that identify ways to grow as a mom, as well as mentoring for real-life situations.

Risen Motherhood

The authors began talking about motherhood on their podcast. They took some of that content and turned it into a book. 

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Risen Motherhood is a wonderful resource for moms who still have kids under the age of 5. 

SNIPPET: You might think that Scripture doesn’t have much to say about the food you make for breakfast, how you view your postpartum body, or what school choice you make for your children.

But a deeper look reveals that the Bible provides the framework for finding answers to your specific questions about modern motherhood. We live in a world of five-step lists and silver-bullet solutions to becoming perfect parents.

If you feel pulled between high-fives and hard words, with culture’s solutions only raising more questions, you’re not alone.

The End of Me

This book does not pretend that motherhood is not hard. It offers honesty about the deeply challenging aspects of motherhood and how God works through you to make us more like his Son through the power of the Holy Spirit.

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The End of Me offers encouragement to lean into and rely on the Lord’s strength when you reach your limits―physically, mentally, and spiritually.

You will find that God will supply everything needed to cope with the daily sacrifices and challenges of motherhood to make you more like Christ.

SNIPPET: Coming to the end of who I was, and what motherhood was stripping me of, was a good thing that drove me to Christ and to the power that he supplies in every failure and weakness of motherhood.

This short, easy-to-read book encourages mothers to depend on Christ when they reach their limits. 

The Warrior We Call Mom

This book shows the connection between spiritual warfare and your role as a mother in order for your kids to experience an awakening of their own. 

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The Warrior We Call Mom is a passionate call for moms to break out of the box of normal and dare to be led by the Spirit in their day-to-day parenting. 

SNIPPET: There is a spiritual war raging against the next generation. We look at biblical examples, including the mothers of Jesus, John the Baptist, Samuel, Moses, and Samson to empower mothers today.

The heart of a mother is to see her child serve God with passion, and this book will be the catalyst for that revival.

Walking With God in the Season of Motherhood

This is an 11-week devotional Bible study that moms with kids of any age can do by themselves or with others. It conveys how God’s imprint on a mom’s heart can make a lasting impression on their children. 

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Walking With God in the Season of Motherhood teaches how to nourish your own heart, mind, and soul with the wisdom you need to become the mother you long to be.

SNIPPET: Each week offers four days of study geared specifically to a mother’s concerns, with the Bible passages already printed out for your convenience. The fifth day is a warm-hearted devotional reading to help you reflect on and apply the truths you’ve learned.

As your relationship with God deepens through prayer and studying His Word, you’ll discover how His imprint on your heart can make a lasting impression on your children.

10 Gifts of Heart

Written from the author’s 30+ years of motherhood, this book shares biblical wisdom and practical insights with mothers who want their children to grow into God’s plan in their daily lives.

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10 Gifts of Heart: What Your Child Needs to Take Heart Before Leaving Home is filled with personal examples, engaging stories, practical suggestions, and heartfelt encouragement for moms in the thick of raising children. 

SNIPPET: Every parent wants their child to grow into a gracious and competent adult. Faith, character, manners, initiative, and gratitude that children need to take to heart before they leave home.

Yet parents today do not always have a clear vision for how to cultivate those traits. What does it look like for a mother to train her child’s heart to excellence and goodness?

A Mother’s Heart

Although this book was written in 1996, many women still mention it to moms who are in the early years of motherhood. It provides an inspiring look at motherhood from a Biblical perspective.

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A Mother’s Heart looks at the values, vision, and character of the Christian mother as a “Pilgrimage Growth Guide.” It is perfect for the new stay-at-home mom or for veteran moms who want to re-envision what God called them to as mothers.

SNIPPET: Overwhelmed by the stress of parenting? This book reveals to women what it means to be a godly mother and offers encouragement to moms of all ages and backgrounds.

This book shows women how to distinguish between their role and God’s role in raising children. It explains how to take a spiritual inventory of a child’s life and how to pray effectively for children. 

Introverted Mom

Whether you’ve just realized you’re an introvert, or if you’ve known it all along, this book is for you. When the volume of family life clashes with your personality, frustration, guilt, and feeling overwhelmed naturally result. 

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Introverted Mom offers vulnerable stories from the author’s own life as well as thoughts from other introverted mothers, letting you know you’re not alone.

It also includes valuable insights from four beloved writers: Laura Ingalls Wilder, Louisa May Alcott, Jane Austen, and L. M. Montgomery. 

SNIPPET: Life as Mom is LOUD, but you long for quiet. The author lifts the burden from your shoulders, reminding you that your steady strength is exactly what your family needs in this chaotic world.

It’s time to honor who you are and savor life as an introverted mom.

Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full

This book is great for moms of babies because each section can be easily read in just a few minutes. Motherhood is tough, and it often feels like the to-do list just gets longer and longer every day―making it hard to experience true joy in God, our children, and the Gospel.

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Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full is comprised of helpful, short Gospel meditations for frazzled moms to reorient their vision of motherhood around what the Bible teaches.

SNIPPET: This encouraging book shows how to pursue a vibrant relationship with God even when discouragement sets in and the laundry still needs to be washed. This book will help you treasure Christ more deeply no matter how busy you are.

Devoted: Great Men and Their Godly Moms

This book is a fascinating historical look at the moms of famous men. This would be a great gift for a boy mom.

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Devoted: Great Men and Their Godly Moms reveal women who were great theologians and Christ followers in their own right, yet whose only students were their own children.

 SNIPPET: Raising children to honor and glorify the Lord is the goal of every Christian mother, but how can you do that? Who can teach you?

One of the best ways to learn is to read examples of women who have succeeded at the very task you are attempting. We will learn together of Christian men and their godly moms, mothers who were used to shape the men who changed the world.

Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World

This book shares the author’s ups and downs in her own family’s journey of discovering why it’s healthiest not to give their kids everything. 

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Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World reinforces the importance of teaching children the difference between “want” and “need” in a comparison-driven culture.

SNIPPET: It’s never too late to raise grateful kids. Learn how to cultivate a spirit of genuine appreciation and create a Jesus-centered home in which your kids don’t just say―but mean!―“thank you” for everything they have.

Humble Moms

This book zooms in on those moms who struggle with serving their children with their industrious hands, but their exhausted hearts have switched to auto-pilot.

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Humble Moms: How the Work of Christ Sustains the Work of Motherhood reaches down deep to encourage exhausted moms with life-giving meditations on Jesus.

SNIPPET: As you journey through the life and work of Christ, you’ll find that your life and work as a mom are sustained in the process.

It is truly possible for moms to have hands and hearts that look like Jesus. Take in all that Christ is for you—and you’ll find that His heart and posture are changing yours.

Expect Something Beautiful

This book offers a renewed vision of motherhood: to see afresh God’s good purpose for you as a mother, a woman, and a follower of Christ.

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Expect Something Beautiful: Finding God’s Good Gifts in Motherhood encourages moms to expect something more out of motherhood—something truly beautiful. 

SNIPPET: Are you pouring out your life for God and others while getting little in return except for the consolation that you’ve done the right thing?

This book helps you see that behind all the giving that mothers do is the receiving of something special—a profound growth in God that is cultivated through motherhood’s everyday ups and downs.

Missional Motherhood

This book seeks to encourage moms on how to care for their children’s spiritual needs as well as their physical care. 

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Missional Motherhood: The Everyday Ministry of Motherhood and the Grand Plan of God dives past the routine tasks of motherhood to see God’s eternal purpose.

SNIPPET: There’s no such thing as “just” a mom. Despite the routine tasks and mundane to-do lists, motherhood is anything but insignificant.

God has designed motherhood as part of His greater plan to draw people to Himself―instilling all women, whether called to traditional mothering or not, with an eternal purpose in nurturing others.

The Bottom Line

Looking around at the state of the world, moms have a greater challenge than ever in raising godly children. Culture, social media, and the influence of friends have much to say about how children live. 

But those influencers usually do not line up with what God holds as important. Encourage the moms in your life today with one or more of these books to encourage them in the battle.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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About the Author
Donna is a sought-after author, speaker, and Bible teacher. Her path from being unchurched to becoming passionate about sharing Jesus was not easy. Read her God-breathed journey: “From Unchurched to Becoming a Multi-Published Author and Sought-After Speaker.” If you want to send Donna a quick message, then visit her here.

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Meant for Good: A Study of Joseph

Posted on by Donna Snow

On April 11, 2023, my brand new Bible study through Concordia Publishing House hits the shelves: Meant For Good: A Study of Joseph. And here’s the cover!

Similar to the depth of my Esther study, this study goes deep into the life of Joseph in the Book of Genesis. Joseph’s biography occupies more space in Genesis than those of Adam, Noah, Abraham, or even his own father, Jacob.

Although that should be reason enough to study Joseph’s incredible journey, he experiences family conflict and unfair treatment that many of us can relate to today.

What You Can Expect

This Bible study has meat and lots of it. Did you expect any less? Over eight weeks with five days in each lesson, we dive deep into Joseph’s incredible journey from Canaan to Egypt.

Get your bible, pencils, notepads and bible highlighters ready, because we take an epic adventure through Genesis 37-50. New insights and familiar passages are sprinkled through each week like treasures waiting to be re-discovered.

Each week includes an introductory of which chapters in Genesis will be covered, along with key questions to answer individually or in small groups.

Each week ends with a very special section called “Go Quiet, Go Deep.” This is where we take a pause from the journey. Quiet our minds from distraction. Remember what the Lord has showed us so far. And ask Him to make that lesson personal. Applicable. Relevant to us right now.

Joseph is a Portrait of Jesus

Out of all the Old Testament cast of characters, Joseph offers us a remarkable picture of Jesus. In my opinion, he more closely modeled Christ than any other. In countless ways, the life of Joseph illustrates the future life of Jesus. Specifically:

  • A shepherd deeply loved by his father.
  • Hated and rejected by his brothers.
  • Put into a pit to die but was raised up.
  • Sold for pieces of silver and turned over to Gentiles.
  • Endured severe temptation but did not sin.
  • Accused falsely but spoke no defense.
  • Cast into prison yet shared a message of deliverance.
  • Honored among Gentiles yet rejected by his brothers.
  • Married a Gentile bride.

The Story

The story begins with Joseph in the land of Canaan as a seventeen-year-old dreamer—literally. As one of two sons born to Jacob’s favorite wife Rachel, favoritism plays a significant role in the story of Joseph. After all, Jacob had been his mother’s favorite.

In Jacob’s eyes, his son Joseph was the favorite even though he was not the oldest son. Joseph had ten older brothers and one younger brother. Sadly, Joseph’s mother Rachel died giving birth to Benjamin, the youngest son.

God gave Joseph the extraordinary gift of interpreting dreams. However, Joseph had not yet mastered the art of tact, timing, or knowing his audience. When he tells his brothers that one day they will bow to him, it becomes clear that even though Joseph’s gift was intact, he was not able to read a room.

One day, Jacob sends Joseph to check on his brothers who are tending their flocks far away. But Joseph never makes it back home.

The 20-Year Saga

The brothers accost Joseph, strip him of his many-colored coat, and throw him into a waterless pit. They ignore his cries, decide to leave him in the pit to die, and sit down to enjoy lunch together. Then Judah offers up a Plan B to make some extra cash instead.

Then Jacob’s sons (all except Benjamin) agree to pull Joseph out of the pit and sell him to Midianite traders for twenty pieces of silver. They return to their father Jacob and promptly lie about what happened.

Pause a moment. Can you imagine what Joseph is feeling? He is rescued from the pit (yay!) only to be sold for money (what?) by his very own flesh and blood.

The Midianites take Joseph to the land of Egypt. Then Joseph is sold to Potiphar, who holds a significant position in Pharaoh’s Egyptian court, to work as a slave.

As Joseph works diligently in Potiphar’s home, Potiphar’s wife takes notice of Joseph and tries to entice Joseph into sleeping with her. He flees from temptation and her repeated offers, only to be falsely accused and thrown into prison.

Spiritual Bootcamp

And so begins Joseph’s spiritual boot camp which lasted more than twenty years. The amazing truth about God’s spiritual boot camps (basically, our whole life) is that He never leaves us. Ever. God’s faithfulness to us never wavers.

During those twenty years, Joseph oversees Potiphar’s home, eventually oversees the prison into which he was thrown, and interprets four additional dreams along the way. The whole time, the God of Abraham is working in Joseph’s life. Molding. Shaping. Preparing.

Even though Joseph’s brothers stripped him of his coat, they could not strip him of his godly character.

Egypt’s Second in Command

After interpreting Pharaoh’s two confusing dreams, Pharaoh elevates Joseph to the position of second in command over Egypt. In addition, God populated the house of Joseph with a wife and children. A new family. Even though Joseph was far from home, God blessed him in what Joseph referred to as “the land of my affliction.”

Eventually, all of Egypt understood that Joseph’s elevation to prominence was a good thing. Joseph’s diligence and excellent administrative skills successfully navigate Egypt through seven years of famine. His industrious, tireless work ended up providing a multitude of nations with food during the devastating famine.

Forgiveness

Joseph could have easily leveraged his powerful position to retaliate against his older brothers. He could have blamed them for stealing the life he had planned. He could have allowed hate and bitterness to take root in his heart. Instead, Joseph forgave wholeheartedly and embraced reconciliation.

We behold the Gospel story woven like a scarlet thread throughout Joseph’s narrative. The struggles that Joseph endured remind us how vital it is to let God’s love and forgiveness lead us.

Joseph’s story is not a rags-to-riches phenomenon. It is a picture of relentless, God-honoring faith.

For All the History Buffs

If you are a history buff like me, you will devour the historical smorgasbord in this Bible study. My previous study on Esther unearthed the nuances and culture of the Persian empire. With Joseph, we dive headlong into ancient Egypt. (Cue the singing of “Walk Like an Egyptian.”)

Ancient Egypt

Originally starting out as several independent cities along the Nile River, Egypt was formed from an Upper Egypt and Lower Egypt, which unified around 3100 BC. Egypt was one the largest kingdoms of the ancient world and led the charge regarding cultural and economic influence until it was conquered in 332 B.C. by the Macedonians.

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Joseph’s story takes place during the historical time of unified Egypt, which was considered to be one of Egypt’s greatest eras. 

Egypt’s Pharaohs

We also study the historical timeline and Egyptian lineage particular to Joseph’s story. We peek into the fascinating world of Egyptian pharaohs. This Bible study pinpoints the precise pharaoh that Joseph would have served under according to historical fact.

This allows us the rare opportunity to discover what that pharaoh focused on and his geopolitical agenda. Consequently, we can ascertain some of the historical responsibilities that Joseph would have been responsible for under that pharaoh’s reign.

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Joseph’s Lineage

As one of the sons of Jacob, Joseph’s brothers and Joseph’s sons eventually comprise the twelve tribes of Israel. Joseph did not have his own tribe. There is no tribe of Joseph. However, the sons of Joseph – Ephraim and Manasseh – form the twelfth tribe together as a double portion of God’s blessing to Joseph.

The Lessons from Joseph Apply Today

Regardless of his circumstances, Joseph never wavered from following the Lord. He was a diligent worker, faithful witness, and capable administrator.

Joseph’s example issues a challenge even today: Will we choose to become victims of our circumstances and give up or will we trust God to bring beauty from ashes and excel?

Even though God would use Joseph mightily, the learning process was long. That same truth applies to us. It may be a long time before God deems us ready for the tasks He has planned for us.

I could not have written in-depth Bible studies twenty years ago. God’s instruction over time has produced a much better vintage.

Joseph could have given in to bitterness. Easily. Who would blame him? Yet he responded to broken dreams and difficult circumstances with a strong faith that propelled him from the pit of slavery to the pinnacle of power.

God Faithfully Prepares Us

God Almighty diligently prepared Joseph to help Egypt’s great nation survive utter destruction. But that preparation did not come in a safe classroom. Joseph learned and honed his extraordinary administrative gifts in two places he never thought he would be – in slavery and in prison.

We may not be able to see how God is preparing us during our difficult times, but rest assured there is a holy purpose for our pain.

The Bottom Line

Even though Joseph experienced extraordinary hurt and adversity, God’s promise to be with him remained faithful. Joseph endured jealousy and sibling rivalry in his father’s household. He survived mistreatment and a murderous plot by his older brothers. He was thrown into prison for resisting temptation. He could have easily allowed his woes to become his focus.

Instead, Joseph looked up and trusted God. And because of the great faith that God instilled in Joseph, a multitude of people would owe Joseph their lives—literally.

Can you relate to waterless pits and unfairness in your life? This new Bible study is so relevant for our current times.

God uses Joseph’s journey to provide invaluable insights regarding how to live wise, bold journeys of faith—fully trusting Him every single day. May God grant you and me such tenacious faith in Christ Jesus our Lord.

You can pre-order “Meant for Good” right here.

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Although Donna is a sought-after Bible teacher, her path from being unchurched to become passionate about sharing Jesus was not easy. Go here to read her God-breathed journey, “From Unchurched to Becoming a Multi-Published Author and Sought-After Speaker.” If you want to send Donna a quick message, then visit her contact page here.

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Two Questions Women Shouldn’t Ask

Posted on by Donna Snow

During a leisurely lunch with three dear friends some time ago, horror stories and scars surfaced around two familiar topics.

Among the four of us, two are married with children, one has never been married or had children, and one is divorced with no children. We range in age from 35-51 and are committed Christ followers.

First, I need you to know something. This post took significant time to write and pray through because it’s rather blunt about sensitive topics.

This post isn’t a vent — it’s a plea borne out of loving others. That being said… 

Throughout our adult lives, my three friends and I have been asked two questions so many times that we’ve lost count. To this day, we remain flabbergasted that some women haven’t caught on. There are two questions that plainly shouldn’t be posed to another woman — unless she’s your BFF or a close second.

Question #1: Why aren’t you married?

Stated like that, this question isn’t really a question. It’s a judgment. 

Since I didn’t get married until I was 29, I fielded that question a LOT of times. We met when I was 23, dated for two years and were engaged for four years while he finished post-graduate college. During those six years, if we would have collected $1 from each woman who asked me why I wasn’t married yet, we could’ve easily paid for the wedding and honeymoon four times over.

As our conversation continued, my three friends and I realized that more often than not this question was posed by married women. That’s tantamount to a millionaire asking an unemployed person why they aren’t buying a mansion.

Even if asked in a caring or flattering way (perhaps she thinks highly of you), it still stings. Believe it or not, some women ask it to intentionally inflict emotional or social harm. And trust me, those on the receiving end can tell the difference.

I’ve also been asked innumerable times since my divorce nearly ten years ago why I have not remarried, along with who, when and whether or not I am dating. Frankly, the answer is entirely too personal to discuss nonchalantly with casual acquaintances. So I never bother. 

Last month, a Christian friend whom I hadn’t communicated with in a while asked about my dating status. When I responded that I was not seeking to be in a relationship, she typed a stunning one-word response: “Disobedient” — immediately followed by, “You’re not a nun.”

Wow. Currently, I am more content in Christ, peaceful and purpose-filled than at any other time in my adult life. But she didn’t ask about those things. She simply judged one aspect as the whole story and moved on.

If you are single, divorced or widowed, perhaps you need to hear this today: God gave marriage as a blessing, not an entitlement or commandment. He did not create us as half a person seeking another half to “complete” us. We are whole and complete in Christ alone. The rest is all grace.

I loved serving God as a married woman. I love serving God as a single woman. Simply put, God calls some women to serve through their marriage and others through undistracted singleness. The key is a passion to love and serve God no matter your marital status.   

And the second question… 

Question #2: Don’t you want children? 

Again, stated like that, this isn’t a question. It’s a judgment.

This question has caused more scars in my life (and my three friends) than any other. It presupposes so many things that it’s hard to know where to begin addressing it.

Asking a single woman that question is cruel — whether intentional or not. Perhaps having children has been a lifelong, unfulfilled dream that has cost her many sleepless nights and a river of tears. What if she believes marriage should come first? Should she rush out to the nearest bar and hook up with the first man she sees? Should she rush to the sperm donor bank and sign up? 

Asking a married woman that question presupposes that she is physically able to bear children. Perhaps she and her husband have tried to conceive children for years only to face financial hardships due to unsuccessful fertility treatments. No woman should ever be expected to share her private struggles or physical condition to justify why her home isn’t overflowing with children.   

My ex-husband and I were married for thirteen years, but didn’t have children. We trusted God’s plan that if He wanted us to have children, He would provide. I believe we would have been wonderful parents. But now looking back on divorce, I believe God knew best. 

Some people have pulled out the Christianity card. “God designed women to have children, so you’re disobeying if you don’t have them.” Yes, people have actually had the audacity to say such an unkind thing to me and my three friends in the past. And when such a statement comes from someone we hold dear, the wound plunges deep. 

Some people have played the adoption card. “So many children need good homes, why aren’t you willing to adopt?” Stated like this, that question is also a judgment. Perhaps she is, in fact, willing to adopt, but is still thinking and praying through the many considerations of such a monumental commitment.  

Simply put, no woman owes another an explanation to these two extremely personal questions. Over time, I’ve learned to smile and deflect the tension. However, the pain inflicted still takes significant prayer, extending relentless forgiveness, and time for God to heal.

The bottom line? Those two questions negate God’s sovereignty. They infer that we need to follow cultural norms or our own plans instead of submitting to His. If no one has ever asked you either question, you are among the blessed minority. 

If you are unmarried or do not have children, please hear this truth loud and clear:

Despite your marital or parenting status,
   God loves you right now. 
   Just as you are. 
   Precisely where you are.
You can joyfully, successfully serve him today.

Following God isn’t about conforming to some cultural mold of how others believe our lives should look. Remember the Apostle Paul? The Apostle Peter? One was married, one was not; one had children, one did not — but they made a powerful difference for God’s kingdom from their individual, God-designed circumstances.

God can use any person at any time in any place for His holy purposes.

No tangible thing on this earth makes us more or less of a Christian. Following Christ never hinges on whether or not we’re married or have children. It’s about being in relationship with Him. It’s about our desire to know Him and be fully known by Him. To rely on Him for our every need. To receive His immeasurable love and amazing grace into the deepest recesses of our soul with overwhelming gratitude.

So to my fellow women who have been on the receiving end of these two questions: I love you. I know what it feels like and I’m so sorry for your pain.   

And to those women who believe it’s okay to keep asking another woman either of those questions, STOP.

PLEASE STOP. 

They damage — and even kill — friendships.

*These wonderful friends are not members of my home church. They read this post when I originally wrote it and gave permission to share the generalities of our discussion in the hope of shedding much needed light on this sensitive topic.*

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Dear Pastor’s Wife: Please Forgive Us

Posted on by Donna Snow

Last week, I wrote a post dedicated to pastors. The response was beautiful.

Beyond the comments left on social media and the blog, what moved my heart the most were the many private messages I received expressing gratitude from those who love our pastors most: their wives.

It reminded me of the challenging road that our pastors’ wives walk — not only my pastors’ wives but the plethora of these amazing women whom I have been privileged to befriend all across the U.S.

So to my pastors’ wives and each of you dear, courageous women married to pastors:

You gracefully stand silently in the shadows while people clamor for your husband’s attention and heap praises on him while we don’t even acknowledge your presence.

Please forgive us.

You live in a glass house where we notice every fingerprint, yet you faithfully keep those windows clean by extending forgiveness that we often don’t deserve.

Please forgive us.

We ruthlessly police your fashion, hairstyle, hair color, size, and words like it’s our sole duty on this planet.

Please forgive us.

You listen dutifully while your husband uses your family as a sermon illustration again and graciously smile while we laugh at you.

Please forgive us.

When we unjustly criticize your husband or how he runs the church — even when it’s so nasty that there should be a smackdown right there in the narthex — you smile graciously and assure us gently that you’ll pass along our concerns.

Please forgive us.

You strive to faithfully walk as Christ’s disciple faced with the same struggles and hurts that we experience, yet you shoulder the burden in solitary silence.

Please forgive us.

You are often volunteered for tasks in the church that no one else wants to tackle — often areas you are not gifted for — yet you trudge faithfully ahead while we slander your efforts.

Please forgive us.

And then there’s this:

Some days you worry that the stress may kill your husband. Literally. You desperately want to be in the will of God but are afraid of what that requires from you, your marriage and your children.

You long to help the multitudes alongside your husband and willingly lay down your very life for the beautiful body of Christ. And some days that makes you very, very tired.

Perhaps you wonder when your husband retires if you will ever walk into a church again. Sometimes sheep bite.

But I want you to know, dear Pastor’s Wife:

Your calling is hard and it can get lonely, but you are standing on the Rock.

You may not have anticipated this calling to be a pastor’s wife, but God has equipped you for this noble work.

God will faithfully provide helpers to you who love you unconditionally, find joy praying for you, and commit to walk alongside you — whether inside or outside your church.

Take heart: Jesus can heal your wounded soul, renew your exhausted mind, reconcile broken relationships, work beautiful forgiveness, mend your broken heart, and meet your every need.

I pray for God to keep faith and hope alive in you because we NEED you.

We often neglect to tell you, but please know this:

You are LOVED.
You are BEAUTIFUL.
You are VALUABLE.
You shine God’s light RADIANTLY.

THANK YOU for your extraordinary sacrifice of praise to Christ our Savior as you serve us. Sisters, I love you dearly and esteem you greatly.

Church, when was the last time you prayed for your pastor’s wife?

Your Messy Bravery Makes This Mess Brave

Posted on by Donna Snow

You have gathered close and invited me across state lines and beyond our country’s borders for one simple, profound privilege: to huddle our hearts together around God’s Word. 

And I’ve seen you come from all over — bags packed, faith intact, and prayers offered with the desire to go deeper with God. You did it again just a few weeks ago as we gathered at my home church to tape a new DVD Bible study series in partnership with the LWML.

And I have to tell you:

You are brave. 

Every. 
Single. 
One. 
Of. 
You.

You have come regardless of insecurities and difficulties, not knowing if you would belong. Hoping to fit in somewhere. And it’s as if I’m looking in a mirror. 

We come with our stories searching to see how they fit into His bigger story — because that is what we have. Stories. God’s Word shining light on our lives to write stories that bleed, heal, and bless.

The lines of our stories become life-lines we share with each other when life’s storms blow hard.

Jesus often taught through stories called parables. Because people can relate to stories.

In the midst of our brave story-sharing, we discover there are a whole lot of other women out there who are a bit of a mess just like us. Messy because of those days we have to fight for joy when the enemy pulls out his arsenal. Messy because we long for eternity while living in a fallen world.

We are a mess — you and I — saved by grace. A brave mess. Brave because each day you get out of bed despite wanting to pull the covers over your head until the aches and disappointments subside.

We brave the harsh world to share our messy stories because other women need to know perfection this side of heaven is an illusion.

And as we gather around His Word, sharing our messy stories, the Spirit of God can bind our wounds. He can take away the sting of loneliness and restore joy despite the laundry heap, crying kids, bruised marriages, and frayed dreams.

Please keep getting out of bed.

We need your messy, real, authentic, unmasked stories trusting that in the hands of the Spirit, the stories become salve to the battered souls. Because as we gather in community around God’s story, the Word is made flesh in our own lives.

I need your messy story… and you need your messy story. We need people who will tell us their story, not their sermons — their thrashing, not their theology. Because we need to know that we aren’t the only messy ones. 

You are BRAVE.

Your bravery makes me brave.

And together we bravely face this world armed with the Sword of the Spirit that reveals the life-altering story of a Resurrection Easter love written for all. So we suit up.

Not because we, the messy, are perfect.

But because of the perfect One who wasn’t afraid of our messes and risked it ALL to write the perfect ending to our stories.

Thank you for being brave.

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Little Old Lutheran Ladies Club

Posted on by Donna Snow

If history and literary geniuses have taught us anything, it’s that we love a good story. Stories that provide a new perspective. Stories that move our soul.

This is one of those stories.

A few weeks ago, several thousand LWML ladies attended our bi-annual convention in Albuquerque, NM. Long-time Twitter friend, Pastor Andrew (Drew) Ratcliffe, an avid supporter of LWML, attended the convention. Drew’s wife (Angie), her mom, sister (Liz), and a couple of Angie’s aunts also attended the convention with him.

Angie’s sister, Liz, was not very familiar with LWML since her Lutheran church in Idaho does not have an existing group. Her only familiarity with LWML is from attending her first LWML convention in Des Moines two years ago and the things that Drew and Angie have shared with her.

After attending her second LWML national convention in Albuquerque a few weeks ago, Liz penned her thoughts about the convention and shared them with Drew. Her thoughts brought him to tears, touching him deeply. After gaining Liz’s permission, Drew shared them with me to share with you.

I hope Liz’s beautiful story (in purple below) about the incredible Lutheran Women in Mission touches your heart and encourages you today.

Little Old Lutheran Ladies:

Some timid and proper, some outspoken and opinionated, many of them grandmothers, many of them widows. This used to be the extent of what came to mind when I thought of this particular demographic. I ought to be familiar with the subject, as the church I attend has many in its congregation.

After attending a bi-annual convention for an organization made up many little old Lutheran women (among others), I’ve been reflecting on the identity of these exceptional women:

  • The many Sunday school teachers I had as a child that gave me a solid foundation for my faith.
  • The 80-year old woman from my church that sends me a card on every holiday and has remembered my birthday every year I’ve been alive.
  • The various ladies that lean over in the pew just a bit when I go up to communion to see which ridiculous pair of shoes I’m wearing that week. “I was hoping you were wearing my favorite pair – those heels with the polka dots!”
  • The 90 year old woman who really isn’t supposed to be driving, but made a trip from Meridian to the farm almost in New Plymouth by herself to visit my Mom after Dad died. “I wasn’t sure I remembered how to get there, but I passed the old Cloverleaf restaurant and figured I was heading in the right direction, so I just kept driving!” Mom said she opened the door and couldn’t have been more surprised to see her standing there.
  • The ladies in their pant suits or jacket/skirt combinations that love and compliment my crazy outfits instead of expressing disapproval.
  • The many widows of our congregation that make a special effort to check in with my Mom every week, and never shied away from the hard conversations and progressive bad news from her the past years.
  • The committee of women that provided and organized countless funeral dinners for families of the church with my Mom, free of charge.
  • The group of Lutheran women that formed a women’s missionary league during World War II, a time when being charitable and spreading the Gospel surely seemed of little importance to many.
  • That same group of Lutheran women who still give millions of dollars every two years to support many mission projects throughout the world. 

The women who traveled to Albuquerque, NM, despite some of them being poor in health, limited in their mobility, or facing tragedy and heartbreak in their home lives, came to give yet more of their time to this group.

I attended this convention, largely due to the suggestion of my sister. I was running through all the reasons I should be at home in Idaho instead of where I was when the event was starting.

As the convention progressed, I received the same lovely compliments and encouragement in my faith, but this time from Little Old Lutheran Ladies from all over the world.

These women are to be admired and respected, not pitied or dismissed.

I’ve realized through family discussion that my grandmother on my Mom’s side (that I never met) fit this bill. I am watching as my Mom and her sisters become them.

What an honor it would be to be one day included in the Little Old Lutheran Ladies Club.

I’m so grateful to Liz for her beautiful words and willingness to share them with you. Ladies, I don’t know about you, but I consider it a high honor to be part of LWML for over 20 years now. We are prayer-warrior women of ALL ages, nationalities, and from ALL walks of life coming together with a passion to serve the Lord through mission work.

I hope you share this to encourage other women — and perhaps take a moment to comment below and encourage Liz.

The LWML has been bearing abundant fruit in God’s vineyard for over 75 years.

Won’t you join us for the next 75?

To God be the glory!

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Two Questions Women Shouldn’t Ask

Posted on by Donna Snow

It happened again.

During a leisurely lunch with three dear friends* a few years back, horror stories and scars surfaced around two familiar topics.

To preface, only one of us is married and has a child. We range in age from 32-49 and are committed Christ followers. I need you to know something first. This post took significant time to write and pray through because it’s rather blunt about sensitive topics.

This post isn’t a vent — it’s a plea borne out of loving others. That being said…

Throughout our adult lives, my three friends and I have been asked two questions so many times that we’ve lost count. To this day, we remain flabbergasted that some women haven’t caught on. There are questions that plainly shouldn’t be posed to another woman — unless she’s your BFF.

(1) Why aren’t you married?

Stated like that, this question isn’t really a question. It’s a judgment.

Since I didn’t get married until I was 29, I fielded that question a LOT of times. We met when I was 23, dated for two years and were engaged for four years while he finished post-graduate college. If we’d collected $1 from each woman who asked me why I wasn’t married yet during those six years, we could’ve easily paid for the wedding and honeymoon four times over.

The more we talked, my friends and I realized that more often than not the question was posed by married women. That’s tantamount to a millionaire asking an unemployed person why they aren’t buying a mansion.

Even if asked in a caring or flattering way (perhaps she thinks highly of you), it still stings.

Believe it or not, some women ask it to intentionally inflict harm. And trust me, those on the receiving end can tell the difference. I’ve also been asked that question innumerable times since my divorce seven years ago. And frankly, the answer is too long and deep to broach with someone who doesn’t really know me. So I never bother.

Simply put, God calls some women to pursuits other than holy matrimony. Mother Theresa comes to mind, among others.

And the second question…

(2) Don’t you want children? 

Again, stated like that, this isn’t a question. It’s a judgment.

This question has caused more scars in my life (and my friends) than any other. It presupposes so many things that it’s hard to know where to begin addressing it.

Asking a single woman that question is cruel — whether intentional or not. Perhaps having children has been a lifelong, unfulfilled dream that has cost her many sleepless nights and a river of tears. What if she believes marriage should come first? Should she rush out to the nearest bar and hook up with the first man she sees? Should she rush to the sperm donor bank and sign up?

Asking a married woman that question presupposes that she is physically able to bear children. Perhaps she and her husband have tried to have children for years only to face financial hardships due to unsuccessful fertility treatments. No woman should ever be expected to share her private struggles or physical condition to justify why her home isn’t overflowing with children.

My ex-husband and I were married for 13 years, but didn’t have children. We trusted God’s plan that if He wanted us to have children, He would provide. I believe we would have been wonderful parents. But now looking back on divorce, I believe God knew best.

This question also presupposes that every woman longs to have children. Having children was never a huge tug on my heart. I realize that I’m opening myself up to some pretty hefty criticism with such a statement. Trust me when I say I’ve received my share of ugly comments. In spades.

I love so much spending time with my nieces and nephews because I see my three sisters in them. My 21-year old niece has lived with me for almost a year and I have cherished that time. Children are incredible. Yet God did not instill in me that desperate longing to have my own. I can’t explain it, it’s just the simple truth.

Some people have pulled out the Christianity card. “God designed women to have children, so you’re disobeying if you don’t have them.” Yes, people have actually had the audacity to say such an unkind thing to me and my friends. And when such a statement comes from someone we hold dear, the wound plunges deep.

Some people have played the adoption card. “So many children need good homes, why aren’t you willing to adopt?” Stated like this, that question is also a judgment. Perhaps she is, in fact, willing to adopt, but is still thinking and praying through the many considerations of such a monumental commitment.

Simply put, no woman owes another an explanation or response to these two extremely personal questions. Over time, I’ve learned to smile and deflect the tension. However, the pain inflicted still takes significant prayer and time for God to heal.

The bottom line? Those two questions negate God’s sovereignty. They infer that we need to follow our own plans instead of listening for and submitting to His. If no one has ever asked you either question, you are among the blessed minority.

If you are unmarried or do not have children, please hear this truth loud and clear:

Despite your marital or parenting status,
God loves you right now.
Just as you are.
Precisely where you are.

Following Him isn’t about conforming to some cultural mold of how others believe your life should look. Remember the Apostle Paul? His singleness allowed him the freedom to accomplish incredible ministry and write nearly half of the New Testament.

Following God isn’t about OUR agenda.
It’s all about what God does in us and through us in HIS perfect timing.

No tangible thing on this earth makes us more or less of a Christian. Following Christ never hinges on whether or not we’re married or have children. It’s about being in relationship with Him. It’s about our desire to know Him, be fully known by Him, and receiving His love and grace into the deepest recesses of our soul.

So to my fellow women who have been on the receiving end of these two questions, I love you. I know what it feels like and I’m so sorry for your pain.

And to those women who believe it’s okay to keep asking another woman either of those questions, STOP.

PLEASE STOP.

They kill friendships.

*These three wonderful friends are not members of my home church. They read this post when it was originally posted and granted permission to share these generalities of our discussion with hopes of shedding much needed light on this sensitive topic.*

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